Do one thing every day that scares you.
I’m going to make this my motto. Don’t worry; there’s a criteria here. This does not mean doing stupid, harmful things, but rather things that you’re scared of for no reason, things that you know you should do but you can’t get out of your own way for. It could be fear of what people might think of you, or feeling foolish, or being judged. I tend to be a little nervous about getting what I want when I really want something. When something really matters to me I suddenly get quite worried about bringing it into the open – I guess I’m worried about being judged. And if I get judged about something that means a lot to me, then it just hurts that much more. But I need to get over that. I need to go out there and get what I want, even if it means risking judgment. And usually my fear is unfounded; it’s based on nothing but my own negative thoughts. People are generally just thinking about themselves anyway, so I’ve got nothing to really worry about. And I have to get one thing through my mind: not everyone is going to like you, or agree with you, or want to be your friend. But that’s OK, and it doesn’t say anything about me as a person. When you try to please everyone and make everyone like you, you fall into the trap of catering to others wants and needs rather than yourself. This is something that I have always had difficulty with, but I’m hoping to change that. I want to follow my dreams, even if it means going out on a limb a little bit. What is life unless you take some risks? You only live once, and I’ve taken to telling myself, “In 50 years, is it really going to matter if I am embarrassed or fail? What’s going to be worse; having tried and failed, or never having tried at all?”
In other words…when I’m 90 years old in a rocking chair on my porch, am I really going to give two hoots what Joe Blow from Idaho thought? NO. I’ll say, in a warbly voice, “Screw that kook Joe Blow,” and shake my cane.
Recently some stealthy artists installed a mural of the Virgin Mary on a surfboard. It has drawn many people to come and see it, and some have even placed flowers underneath. However, the mural is in danger of being removed, as it is on city property. I can see how “rules are rules” but I’d really love to see this stay. It’s a very pretty and creative piece of art, and fits Encinitas so well.



















